Am I Invisible?

Am I Invisible? What to do when you feel forgotten, unnoticed, unimportant, alone. www.living31.org/
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Sometimes the words just want to escape my mouth or get pounded out on my keyboard…”do you even see me??”  It could be in a room full of people, at work, it could be on social media, in groups on Facebook.  Do you see me?

There are so many times I feel totally invisible.  I don’t really ever feel as though I am not liked.  I know my friends like me or they wouldn’t be my friends.  But I feel invisible.  It’s as if I just blend in with the crowd.  It makes me feel lacking, uninteresting, dull, ordinary.  It makes me feel as though there is nothing outstanding about me.  I just blend.

There are so many times I feel totally invisible Click To Tweet

I am a new blogger and I fall into the comparison trap where I am not looking necessarily at more established bloggers, because I expect them to be way ahead of where I am.  I tend to look at bloggers who are also new and think “What am I missing?  What is it they are doing that I am not?  What is it about them that I am lacking?  Am I really just unlikable?”

The enemy wants me to feel inadequate.  He wants me to compare. He wants me to doubt my influence.  He wants me to pack it in and take my marbles and go home.  He won’t try something more overt like making me believe people dislike everything about me!  That wouldn’t work on me and he knows it.  No…he is more subtle.  He will make me feel…invisible.  He will make me base my worth and value on mere popularity.  It’s like being in high school again, wondering why all the cool kids don’t like you as much as others!  It’s a tactic to make you just slowly back down and not try because over time you feel like no one is listening anyway.

The enemy wants me to feel inadequate. He wants me to compare. He wants me to doubt my influence. Click To Tweet

It’s just that!  It’s a tactic!!  It’s a lie!!  He will make me believe numbers determine my worth!  That likes and comments on posts are indicative of my value!  That if people don’t respond to me the way they do to someone else it means I am not as well loved!  But it doesn’t make the feeling any less real and it doesn’t make it hurt less when we feel overlooked.

I think we all feel invisible at times.  I think we all sometimes feel as if we are wallflowers.  And it could very well be that at times, we are.  But those times could be our doing.  When I start to feel like I’m invisible I can sometimes retreat more and create more of what makes me feel that way.

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But I am not invisible…not to the One who matters.  Oh there are times I feel as if I am.  I am sure we have all felt at times like God is not listening or doesn’t want to answer us.  I am sure we have all wondered if we somehow missed God and now He is silent.  But we are never invisible to Him.

I am sure we have all wondered if we somehow missed God and now He is silent. But we are never… Click To Tweet

Deuteronomy 31:6 says:

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” 

Isaiah 41:10 says:

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

And Matthew 28:20:

“… And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

These are just some of the verses that show that God is always there.  He may be silent at times but that does not mean He does not see us, love us, desire to spend every moment possible with us.  It could be because He is telling us to wait, or it could be us.  It could be He is silent because we failed to go to Him about it.  It could be He is waiting on us.  It could be we keep seeking His hand (what He can do for us) and not His face (just spending time with Him).

It could be the same with people.  Maybe we aren’t reaching out.  Maybe we are withdrawn.  Maybe they are waiting on us too!

So when you go through times when you feel invisible, remember that you are always number one to your Father in Heaven.  Seek His face, not always His hand and then we will see He is there waiting to talk with us.

 

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18 Comments

  1. Amen! This message was for me. I think back a lot to feeling as if I am in high school. Like you said, it's not comparing myself to the established bloggers but the new bloggers who are way ahead. I sometimes think, "why do you not show favor to me, God". Did I miss something? Am I not important? I remind myself that maybe I am in a season of waiting so He can prepare me, mold me, and shape me. Thank you so much for sharing this and to know I am not alone.

    • Lorin oh you are definitely not alone. Comparison is such a devastating thing. I think we learn so much from these times. I keep remembering Zechariah 4:10 "Do not despise the day of small beginnings..." There is much to be learned (both about blogging, about God and about ourselves) during these times. God Bless and thank you for commenting!!

  2. I see you!! Your blog looks fantastic. This encouraged me.

  3. Great read!
    It's easy to fall into the comparison trap! I would have never known you were a new blogger! It looks great!

    • Lauren that is so sweet...only been at it for about a month and a half. Thank you so much!!

  4. Beautiful post. Thank you! I sometimes tell my husband I feel "beige." I'm there, but unseen. Sometimes that's a blessing. Other times - not so much. But you are right - God sees. And that is more than enough!

    • Thank you and you are right! Absolutely!! Thank you so much for your comment!!

  5. Oh my goodness, you are speaking to me today girl. I cannot tell you how many times I have wanted to pack it in, throw in the towel with everything. Just this week I've been rejected 3 times, picked over for someone else. I do the same thing when comparing to other new bloggers. I definitely feel invisible this week. Thank you for sharing your words and story! I have definitely been seeing you!

    • Thank you so much and I'm so glad that we are able to share our struggles and experiences with other bloggers...sometimes it's easy to feel like you're alone in your feelings. I love hearing that I was able to let someone know they're not alone!

  6. Diane, what a lovely post. Isn't satan just a big bully?! ugh. So glad you're leaning into the truth and calling out the liar. Welcome to the blogging world. :) Great to meet you. I only started blogging in earnest two years ago. The learning curve can feel like drinking from a water-hose at times, but you do eventually start to feel like you have some footing. I've loved building community with other writers, and look forward to knowing you as well. Thanks for linking up at the #ChasingCommunity launch! So great to have you along for the ride. ((hug))

    • Brenda drinking from a hose is definitely a good analogy! Thats exactly what it feels like at times but I keep reminding myself that this is not about me. It is for Him and for those who might be helped by something they read. Its hard to keep that focus sometimes but I try!! LOL Thank you so much for commenting and for the welcome!! Looking forward to getting to know you as well!!

  7. I can totally relate to this. Comparison is something I do often too! It is something I think I will always have to be intentional about NOT doing. I actually wrote about comparison on the blog. I feel every woman (and person) struggles with this even if they won't admit it. Thanks for sharing, friend!

    • It's always nice to hear you're not alone when feeling that way!! Thank you so much for your comment Keri!!

  8. I feel like bloggers feel a special kind of invisibility sometimes. It's hard! Keep writing though. Even if you don't reach the whole world, you might change the world for one person.

    • Audience of one!! That's my daily reminder!! Thank you for your comment!!

  9. Thank you so much for this. It spoke directly to me. I'm a new blogger to and have been struggling so much with this!

    • Meagan it is such a struggle for many of us as we start out. You are definitely not alone!!! I am glad you found it encouraging!

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