Settling for Stew - What Are You Giving Up?

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What are you giving up for immediate gratification?

I am not a patient person.  There…the understatement of the century.  I am THAT person..the one who can’t stand surprises.  The one who can’t wait until Christmas to find out what her gifts are.  I sometimes joke that my Jewish heritage must be pulling me toward celebrating Hanukkah because for like a week before Christmas I keep wanting to open stuff.

I despise waiting of any kind.  The worst thing you can say to me is, “I have something to tell you LATER!”  Cruel and unusual punishment in my opinion.

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I am also impulsive, which I suppose makes sense since I have no patience.  I am learning more and more to stop and pray about things before I buy them, agree to them, commit to them.  But I still act impulsively at times and, often regret it later.   I will often give up things later to get something right now!!

We are all on a journey, this is mine!

And we all have our struggles and this is mine! of mine….

Someone else was like me…at least once.

He was hungry..and tired.  He had been working in the field and the stew looked delicious.  His brother Jacob had something he wanted and wasn’t about to give it away without something in return.

“Sell me your birthright as of this day!” Genesis 25:31 (NKJV)

Seems a high price to pay for some stew!   Jacob clearly recognized the desperation in his brother’s plea:

“Look, I am about to die; so what is this birthright to me?”
Genesis 25:32 (NKJV)

Then Jacob makes him swear to him and he sold his birthright there for a bowl of stew.   The Bible then says that Esau despised his birthright.

Settling for Stew - What Are You Giving Up? Is instant gratification worth the loss? | Faith | God | Patience | Grace | Quotes | Bible

The Hebrew word here for despised is bazah” and it means “to regard with contempt, to be worthless”.  Essentially he felt his birthright was worthless to him at the time.  But it tells us that AFTER he has eaten.

“And Jacob gave Esau bread and stew of lentils; then he ate and drank, arose and went his way.  Thus Esau despised his birthright” Genesis 25:34 (NKJV)

He felt it worthless not only in the moment he wanted food but even after he ate!  He just didn’t see the value of it at the time, and felt other things more valuable to him.

I am sure Esau was not dying.  It says he came in from the field and was weary.  The Hebrew word here was “ayeph” which means “exhausted”.  It doesn’t say he was starving to death!  It says he was weary, exhausted.  In verse 27 it tells us that Esau was a skilled hunter, a man of the field.  So surely a skilled hunter would not have allowed himself to leave the field where he was hunting if he was starving to death.

He was tired…too tired to get himself some food…much easier to just take the food that his brother had already prepared.   Any of us who has come home after an exhausting day at work and feeling hangry enough to eat the legs off the sofa but too tired to think about making food…can I get an amen!!?

He didn’t care about giving up the birthright, not because he thought he would die but because he held it worthless!  He didn’t value it to begin with the way Jacob did and felt like it was so far off in the distance it wasn’t of importance now.

Again…this was not a momentary lapse in judgment because of starvation.  This was a man who was too tired to get himself food so he traded something he held worthless for instant gratification.  He made a bargain, one to later regret, to get something he wanted NOW.

Many times when we are in the midst of wanting what we want, we can easily “despise” things that seem to pale in comparison at the moment.  This is how the enemy tempts us into sin.  He causes us to covet something so much that we are willing to settle for it, trade for it, lose for it, robbing ourselves of the ‘better’ that could have been ours had we waited, had we prayed about it, had we submitted it to God.

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I have had to make a conscious effort to deny the flesh (because it is that fleshly part of me that I have to keep dying to) and prayerfully consider everything I want, whether it is something I want to buy or an opportunity presented to me.  When it comes to dying to an old habit, it is difficult. Impulsivity and impatience are tough battles to fight.  But…

“I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me!”
Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)

What are you “despising” right now because something appears to look better at the moment? Carry it to the cross.  Pray about it.  Seek God’s will for it and seek His grace to help!  Don’t sell out for a bowl of stew!

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  1. Oh my. The image of me waiting is nerve wracking. I fidget even in church. Thanks for this perspective. It reminded me that though I may be inpatient for the 'next big thing' that the BEST big thing may be right in front of me, or waiting- until God's timing.

    • Amen!! His timing is always best. Of course, when you are an impatient person that is easier to say than to practice!! But...grace!!

  2. I love the title the story goes perfect with it!

  3. Haha, I was wondering what this would be about from the title and I'm so glad I read it. Great job, Diane! I love how you related a passage that is often glossed-over back to our own lives. As for me? I've mentioned it before in a couple of places. I have HOUSE envy. I just want a beautiful home to live in. It doesn't even have to be big.

    • Thank you Lauren!! I definitely hear you on the house envy lol

  4. Don't sell out for a bowl of stew! Love it and what a great read.

  5. Great article Diane! Very challenging. I too am quite impulsive. I often say, "Never give up eternal reward for temporal gratification." Thanks again. This was great.

  6. This is profound. It describes a situation that I am currently experiencing and this speaks to it directly. I am wrestling with God and I know I should wait but "I am hungry NOW". Thanks for this😃

  7. A big part of me wishes that I hadn't read this, never before would I have identified myself with Esau. And now, I have to face this truth, that I very much hate... yuck! I have a difficult battle in this one, I too don't like to wait, I like to know what I am getting, and don't think too far down the road. Thanks Diane, God was using you to speak some hard truth to me today!

    Anyway, the reason I stopped by is because I have nominated you for 2017 Blogger Recognition Award, you can find out more information at
    Please feel free to contact me if you have any further questions or concerns. God Bless! Debra

    • Hi Debra
      Thank you so much! What a blessing this is! I am sorry it took me so long to reply...I took a little hiatus (explained in today's post)..but I wanted to reach out and thank you!!