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Christian Woman Blogger – Do You Feel Like a Little Fish In a Big Pond?

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Starting a journey as a Christian woman blogger can be so exciting! You feel called to this writing ministry and have such wonderful ideas! You get your blog up and going and can’t wait to start promoting it!  Your excitement is through the roof!! Then you get on social media and Google and Pinterest and immediately begin to feel like…

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Little Fish in a Big Pond

As a new blogger, you are surrounded by other bloggers who have it all together! They have established relationships, promote each other’s posts and maybe even write for each other’s blogs! Maybe they help promote each other’s products!

These bloggers may seem to have this invisible circle that you can’t ever see yourself breaking into. You feel a bit like you did in high school; a wallflower looking at all the popular kids who surely won’t want to waste their time on a newbie.

The Comparison Trap

It is easy to fall into the comparison trap. You look at their numbers, how many followers, how many repins, how many monthly viewers on Pinterest and your heart sinks a little.

You feel unnoticed. Maybe you feel unwanted at times. Possibly you feel you try to get into the circle but it seems like you just can’t. You can feel like an outsider.

I know that feeling! As a fairly new Christian woman blogger myself, I know how it feels to look at the numbers of other bloggers and think you will never get to where they are. You think they somehow possess some special gift that you just don’t have.

And I felt that way when I was just 2 months into blogging! Seriously, I expected the same results in just two months!! Sounds crazy right?

Christian Woman Blogger – Blogging Experience

What new Christian woman bloggers can easily overlook is how long these other bloggers have been established. It is not that they have a special gift that you don’t; they will be the first ones to tell you that! What they DO have are longevity and experience!

It’s easy to see all the followers and re-tweets and re-pins they get, but what you don’t see, what the enemy doesn’t want you to see, are all the days, weeks and months they spent feeling just like you do. You don’t see all the tears they cried because they wrote the most AWESOME blog post ever, just to have 5 people visit it.

We don’t see the fights with spouses over hours spent staring at a laptop trying to craft the perfect pin! We don’t see the sleepless nights or the hours (and dollars) spent doing every training known to man!

It's easy to see all the followers and re-tweets and re-pins they get, but what you don't see, what the enemy doesn't want you to see, are all the days, weeks and months they spent feeling just like you do. Click To Tweet

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Christian Woman Blogger: It’s Your Journey

It is easy to compare yourself to others but the reality is that their journey is not your journey. Remember, your journey in blogging, or any ministry for that matter, is what God has designed just for you! It is not going to look like anyone else’s!

Your journey in blogging is going to be unique to your strengths and your experiences in life and in your walk!

And your journey is going to progress at a pace unique to you as well.

Your goals are not the same as another blogger’s goals. So you will not walk the same walk!

Your journey in blogging is going to be unique to your strengths and your experiences in life and in your walk! Click To Tweet

The enemy wants you to play the comparison game. He wants you to look at those numbers and get discouraged and give up! The enemy wants you to believe that somehow these other bloggers just “have it” and you don’t. He wants you to think they just woke up one day, rolled out of bed and started this amazingly successful blog!

That is a lie! He will never show you everything that went into that success.

Rather than allowing him to discourage you, go to your fellow bloggers for encouragement. They will be willing to share with you all they have experienced in their blogging journey!

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Christian Woman Blogger Community

What I DO know about the Christian blogging community is that it is a giving one. When you reach out for help, people WILL respond. If you ask for shares, you WILL get them (be sure to reciprocate when you do). And if you ask for advice, you will get it and you will get pointed toward training that might help you!

If you want the success they have, you have to be willing to put in the time as they did.

You have to be willing to do training as they did. If you ask for help and you are pointed toward books or training, be willing to read or do some of them! You don’t have to spend a lot of money on them. In fact, there are some great free ones that I will list below.

Success at blogging is not going to come by osmosis! It is work!!

Not Seeing Results

But what if you have done the work, done the training, and you still aren’t seeing the results you want?

Take comfort in the fact that it just takes time! It won’t happen tomorrow. You should start to see some improvement and as long as you are heading in the right direction, even if slowly, that is progress! But there is nothing wrong with your blog! It just takes time to get it out there in front of people.

Look at it like a marathon, not a sprint. It is better to build something on a solid foundation that will last rather than a flash that will quickly die out because you cannot maintain that pace.

Build on a Solid Foundation

A solid foundation will see you through slow times, tough times! The Word makes it clear that a solid foundation is always the best way!

Matthew 7:24-27 says:

Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.

But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.


Now, He wasn’t speaking of a blog of course but it is still good advice that applies to anything in life.

A solid foundation for your blog will see you through storms far better than a blog built hastily on the sand!

Seek God! Pray about what direction He has for your ministry and focus your eyes on Him, not other bloggers!

Be sure to check out my new sister site, Faithful CEOs, which features blog posts that are specific to Christian bloggers, and has info to help you grow and develop your blog or online business!

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  1. Thank you so much for your very kind and useful tips for beginning bloggers. I am a fairly new blogger, and I still feel like I need a lot of guidance and support. One of the big surprises when I first began blogging was the generous and friendly blogging community. I pictured blogging as a lonely endeavor. I have “met” so many amazing writers through blogging. It is actually the best part of having a blog. So, yes, new bloggers, comment, follow, link up, get involved in your community!

    1. Well said Laurie! I think new bloggers sometimes feel intimidated and afraid to jump in so thank you for that encouragement!!

  2. What an awesome post!! It’s so important not to compare ourselves to others. I love connecting with other Christian bloggers. I don’t talk about my faith much over on my blog, but it is a huge part of my life!

    1. I’m so glad that you are connecting with other Bloggers. Regardless of your niche it’s so important!! Blogging can be very isolated at times so that connection is so vital!

  3. Yes! Christian online community for the Christian Blogger is so important! And it is a long journey, but for the people who truly have a passion for blogging, I believe it will be worth it.

  4. This is all so true! I keep in mind that God called me, therefore He qualified me to do what only I can do. Early on I got caught up in trying to appeal to everyone, but that’s insanity! Lol

    1. I think most of us get caught up in that early on! You are doing such awesome things! God is using you in amazing ways!

  5. Your post hits a lot of truths that (like most truths) don’t always feel true. Which is why it’s important to keep reminding one another that they’re true! Thanks 🙂

    1. So true! It is one of the reasons FB groups for bloggers are so helpful! Without that encouragement, it is easy to want to give up!

  6. Wow I wish I could truly find the words to thank you for this blog post. I just posted yesterday on my Instagram not only about how we are more beautiful than rubies but how I was feeling down. Although I didn’t share WHAT I was feeling down it was because of everything you stated in this post. I am very new at this blogging thing and although I am loving it, it’s easy to get discouraged when you see how gradual your growth is when you also see how much has grown for others. But you put into perspective what I needed to be reminded of. All of those other bloggers also have been there before and their hard work has paid off just like ours will too. Thank you thank you thank you for this. ?

    1. I am so glad it encouraged you!!! Your hard work WILL pay off!!! Just stick it out through the tough and discouraging times!!

  7. I love your words of encouragement. I am mostly a garden blogger but I am a Christian and wanted to write more about it on my blog because the garden is truly where I feel more connected to God. So I am starting by just sharing my experiences, and God has worked in my life. I have found interestingly that many other Christian bloggers have found my blog through the gardening link-ups, which is pretty funny. Still, eventually I think I would like to have a few days a week dedicated to my Christian experience. By the way, thank you for the resources. 🙂

  8. “Your journey in blogging is going to be unique to your strengths and your experiences in life and in your walk!” This is so true. Every blog I read (and I read a lot!) is as different as the person behind it. I’m glad!

  9. Diane, this post was exactly what I needed. I have been so guilty of looking at other bloggers stats and numbers, only to complain and whine to God about mine. Recently though, He convicted me of this, and revealed to me how prideful I had become over this ministry. It had become all about what I could do, who I could reach, how many likes I could get, and so on. I had completely left God out of it. I now pray more of Him and less of me in everything. I want His glory to shine not mine! Thank you so much for the encouragement and advice.

    1. I am so glad it encouraged you and yes..I know exactly what you mean. We can become prideful and think it is about us but we have to let God lead!

  10. So much beautiful encouragement here. I especially appreciate the links you’ve offered that have helped you, Diane. Because it’s definitely a journey, not a simple sprint. Thanks so much. I’ll be pinning this sweet puppy.

  11. Thanks for the encouragement! I am fairly new too and I agree that just having a few blogging friends that get you and may be just a little ahead of you has helped because most understand and want to be encouraging! Thanks for reminding us not to look at numbers but look to Him!

  12. Thanks for this! I’m not a new blogger Diane, but I still experience some of these very thoughts. Especially the comparison trap (but that happens with everything in life) and feeling like I’m not seeing results. I get impatient when things take a long time to blossom and I’m definitely someone who prefers instant results. I would almost prefer to be the hare (in the Tortoise and the Hare fable), who speeds through everything rather than doing everything slow and steady like the Tortoise. As long as I don’t lay down at the finish line before the end, which I also have a tendency to do, because of fear of failure. But that’s another blog of yours that I need to check out.

    1. I’m the same way! I tend to want things to happen yesterday! God is certainly teaching me patience through blogging!

  13. I love this community! I have a dear friend who is a fantastic writer preparing to launch her blog next year. I’ve sent her this! Thank you for all you do to bless the Christian blogging community.

  14. Thanks for this encouraging post! Blogging can be a lonely ministry at times. It can also be intimidating, especially if we play the comparison game. So grateful for those like yourself who cheer and encourage us forward!

  15. Thanks so much for the encouraging post! I know I felt that way about my online store I wanted as many sales as everyone else but not realizing that this takes time. Patience is truly necessary when trying to do anything. I remember when I was a first year high school teacher wanting to have the skills of a veteran 10 year teacher not realizing that it takes time to get there.

    1. I totally get it! Anytime I do something new I want to hit the fast-forward button and just get to the goal line!!

  16. This felt so God sent! I struggle with being patient and seeing things through when results don’t come easily. When you said, “And your journey is going to progress at a pace unique to you as well.”, I was like yes, Amen! God has called me to write for years and I ignored his call until a couple months ago. I need to remember that he called me to do this, it’s his, not mine. I just need to be faithful and he will use it how he wants, in his own time. Thank you for these encouraging words! And for your link up. You’re such a blessing.

    1. Thank you so much Julie and I’m so glad it encouraged you! And you’re right! He may be using those frustrating times so that you can offer that experience to others through your writing!
      He is using you to bless so many people!!

  17. Thanks for the encouragement!! I already signed up with a couple of the free courses! With our VERY limited income as I only am physically able to work part-time and hubby can’t work from a developed disability, I can’t financially afford to really spend much and you gave me hope that just because I don’t have the money like some doesn’t mean I can’t still further the progress!!

    1. I’m so glad that you signed up!!! They are awesome courses and she gives tons on info in the free ones! Let me know how you liked them when you’re done!!

  18. Thank you for your information. I am new to this writing thing and it is very overwhelming trying to learn how to get my blog out there and how to connect with other bloggers. I have no idea how to navigate on the internet and get very fustrated that I know what I want to do but can not figure out to do it. I can not even figure out how to link my blog smh. I have a heard time understanding the terms that are used to tell you how to do it and then after reading several articles on how to’s I only confuse myself even more. I have a message of grace and faith that I want to convey to people so that they can have hope in the mist of troubles and can survive the daily mishaps of life because of Jesus but if I can not figure this blog traffic stuff then how will anyone ever hear about it. I can not afford to pay for any kind of help so I am relying on the all the good free resources available but I get so confused (partially because of brain injuries from a auto accident that God saved my life from). Any way that you know of some really easy to understand resources to help me along? I couldn’t even figure out how to add my website link up here where you said that you provide up to 2 links to your own site.

    1. Yes! There are some great free resources! If you go to my resources page or go to some of my other blogging posts (there should be some linked on this page) you will find them there! Let me know if you have trouble find them and I’ll try to help! Like you I also have a brain injury (stroke a couple of weeks ago) so I can relate to what you mean and I’d be happy to help you find them!

      1. thank you and I hope that you have a full recovery from your stroke. I know that they can affect the brain in the same way that I have trouble with now. best luck to you!!

  19. Comparison always feels hard. And in this blogging world it is always right in front of us. But God is so good to work on those things in us and remind us that He is a God of love and grace, not comparison.

  20. This was just what I needed to read. I’m a new blogger that came across this post on Pinterest. Was wondering if all the work is worth it. Thank you for the encouragement! God bless!