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Christian Woman Blogger – Do You Feel Like a Little Fish In a Big Pond?

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Starting a journey as a Christian woman blogger can be so exciting! You feel called to this writing ministry and have such wonderful ideas! You get your blog up and going and can’t wait to start promoting it!  Your excitement is through the roof!! Then you get on social media and Google and Pinterest and immediately begin to feel like…

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Little Fish in a Big Pond

As a new blogger, you are surrounded by other bloggers who have it all together! They have established relationships, promote each other’s posts and maybe even write for each other’s blogs! Maybe they help promote each other’s products!

These bloggers may seem to have this invisible circle that you can’t ever see yourself breaking into. You feel a bit like you did in high school; a wallflower looking at all the popular kids who surely won’t want to waste their time on a newbie.

The Comparison Trap

It is easy to fall into the comparison trap. You look at their numbers, how many followers, how many repins, how many monthly viewers on Pinterest and your heart sinks a little.

You feel unnoticed. Maybe you feel unwanted at times. Possibly you feel you try to get into the circle but it seems like you just can’t. You can feel like an outsider.ir?source=bk&t=live31 20&bm id=default&l=ktl&linkId=624703455e1c9cd0ab130daeebc07420& cb=1543252879839

I know that feeling! As a fairly new Christian woman blogger myself, I know how it feels to look at the numbers of other bloggers and think you will never get to where they are. You think they somehow possess some special gift that you just don’t have.

And I felt that way when I was just 2 months into blogging! Seriously, I expected the same results in just two months!! Sounds crazy right?

Christian Woman Blogger – Blogging Experience

What new Christian woman bloggers can easily overlook is how long these other bloggers have been established. It is not that they have a special gift that you don’t; they will be the first ones to tell you that! What they DO have are longevity and experience!

It’s easy to see all the followers and re-tweets and re-pins they get, but what you don’t see, what the enemy doesn’t want you to see, are all the days, weeks and months they spent feeling just like you do. You don’t see all the tears they cried because they wrote the most AWESOME blog post ever, just to have 5 people visit it.

We don’t see the fights with spouses over hours spent staring at a laptop trying to craft the perfect pin! We don’t see the sleepless nights or the hours (and dollars) spent doing every training known to man!

It's easy to see all the followers and re-tweets and re-pins they get, but what you don't see, what the enemy doesn't want you to see, are all the days, weeks and months they spent feeling just like you do. Click To Tweet

Christian Woman Blogger: It’s Your Journey

It is easy to compare yourself to others but the reality is that their journey is not your journey. Remember, your journey in blogging, or any ministry for that matter, is what God has designed just for you! It is not going to look like anyone else’s!

Your journey in blogging is going to be unique to your strengths and your experiences in life and in your walk!

And your journey is going to progress at a pace unique to you as well.

Your goals are not the same as another blogger’s goals. So you will not walk the same walk!

Your journey in blogging is going to be unique to your strengths and your experiences in life and in your walk! Click To Tweet

The enemy wants you to play the comparison game. He wants you to look at those numbers and get discouraged and give up! The enemy wants you to believe that somehow these other bloggers just “have it” and you don’t. He wants you to think they just woke up one day, rolled out of bed and started this amazingly successful blog!

That is a lie! He will never show you everything that went into that success.

Rather than allowing him to discourage you, go to your fellow bloggers for encouragement. They will be willing to share with you all they have experienced in their blogging journey!

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Christian Woman Blogger Community

What I DO know about the Christian blogging community is that it is a giving one. When you reach out for help, people WILL respond. If you ask for shares, you WILL get them (be sure to reciprocate when you do). And if you ask for advice, you will get it and you will get pointed toward training that might help you!

If you want the success they have, you have to be willing to put in the time as they did.

You have to be willing to do training as they did. If you ask for help and you are pointed toward booksir?source=bk&t=live31 20&bm id=default&l=ktl&linkId=d3b9971fdf1f5430caec7bcefbf23f23& cb=1543255724204 or training, be willing to read or do some of them! You don’t have to spend a lot of money on them. In fact, there are some great free ones that I will list below.

Success at blogging is not going to come by osmosis! It is work!!ir?source=bk&t=live31 20&bm id=default&l=ktl&linkId=df60bfa83b61025ebea71a8ce6b112b9& cb=1543255770018

Not Seeing Results

But what if you have done the work, done the training, and you still aren’t seeing the results you want?

Take comfort in the fact that it just takes time! It won’t happen tomorrow. You should start to see some improvement and as long as you are heading in the right direction, even if slowly, that is progress! But there is nothing wrong with your blog! It just takes time to get it out there in front of people.

Look at it like a marathon, not a sprint. It is better to build something on a solid foundation that will last rather than a flash that will quickly die out because you cannot maintain that pace.

Build on a Solid Foundation

A solid foundation will see you through slow times, tough times! The Word makes it clear that a solid foundation is always the best way!

Matthew 7:24-27 says:

Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.

But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash.


Now, He wasn’t speaking of a blog of course but it is still good advice that applies to anything in life.

A solid foundation for your blog will see you through storms far better than a blog built hastily on the sand!

Seek God! Pray about what direction He has for your ministry and focus your eyes on Him, not other bloggers!

Scriptures taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™

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  1. Thanks so much for the encouraging post! I know I felt that way about my online store I wanted as many sales as everyone else but not realizing that this takes time. Patience is truly necessary when trying to do anything. I remember when I was a first year high school teacher wanting to have the skills of a veteran 10 year teacher not realizing that it takes time to get there.

    1. I totally get it! Anytime I do something new I want to hit the fast-forward button and just get to the goal line!!

  2. This felt so God sent! I struggle with being patient and seeing things through when results don’t come easily. When you said, “And your journey is going to progress at a pace unique to you as well.”, I was like yes, Amen! God has called me to write for years and I ignored his call until a couple months ago. I need to remember that he called me to do this, it’s his, not mine. I just need to be faithful and he will use it how he wants, in his own time. Thank you for these encouraging words! And for your link up. You’re such a blessing.

    1. Thank you so much Julie and I’m so glad it encouraged you! And you’re right! He may be using those frustrating times so that you can offer that experience to others through your writing!
      He is using you to bless so many people!!

  3. Thanks for the encouragement!! I already signed up with a couple of the free courses! With our VERY limited income as I only am physically able to work part-time and hubby can’t work from a developed disability, I can’t financially afford to really spend much and you gave me hope that just because I don’t have the money like some doesn’t mean I can’t still further the progress!!

    1. I’m so glad that you signed up!!! They are awesome courses and she gives tons on info in the free ones! Let me know how you liked them when you’re done!!

  4. Thank you for your information. I am new to this writing thing and it is very overwhelming trying to learn how to get my blog out there and how to connect with other bloggers. I have no idea how to navigate on the internet and get very fustrated that I know what I want to do but can not figure out to do it. I can not even figure out how to link my blog smh. I have a heard time understanding the terms that are used to tell you how to do it and then after reading several articles on how to’s I only confuse myself even more. I have a message of grace and faith that I want to convey to people so that they can have hope in the mist of troubles and can survive the daily mishaps of life because of Jesus but if I can not figure this blog traffic stuff then how will anyone ever hear about it. I can not afford to pay for any kind of help so I am relying on the all the good free resources available but I get so confused (partially because of brain injuries from a auto accident that God saved my life from). Any way that you know of some really easy to understand resources to help me along? I couldn’t even figure out how to add my website link up here where you said that you provide up to 2 links to your own site.

    1. Yes! There are some great free resources! If you go to my resources page or go to some of my other blogging posts (there should be some linked on this page) you will find them there! Let me know if you have trouble find them and I’ll try to help! Like you I also have a brain injury (stroke a couple of weeks ago) so I can relate to what you mean and I’d be happy to help you find them!

      1. thank you and I hope that you have a full recovery from your stroke. I know that they can affect the brain in the same way that I have trouble with now. best luck to you!!

  5. Comparison always feels hard. And in this blogging world it is always right in front of us. But God is so good to work on those things in us and remind us that He is a God of love and grace, not comparison.

  6. This was just what I needed to read. I’m a new blogger that came across this post on Pinterest. Was wondering if all the work is worth it. Thank you for the encouragement! God bless!

    1. I am so glad it encouraged you!! It is definitely worth it. And believe me, there are times I feel like giving up because you WILL go through rough patches! But don’t give up! Just learn as much as you can!! And feel free to check out a site I run with my best friend https://www.faithfulceos.com for some great blogging tips!

  7. Thanks for such an encouraging post! I’m a guy who started a new blog in February, and this is exactly how I’ve been feeling. But I’m determined to stick with it because I know it was God who put this blog on my heart.

    1. Yes please do stick with it. There will be times you feel like giving up. I go through those even today. But if you truly feel it’s what you should be doing, then ride out the tough times and the discouraging times and it will be worth it.

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