If you are around my age or older, you probably remember the song by Tom Jones, “Why Why Why Delilah?” Well, I am sure one of our Biblical heroes said that very thing! I love honesty and transparency. But sometimes in life, we can be staring the truth in the face and choose to ignore it. Even worse, sometimes we believe we can change it. As the late Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them”!
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When Someone Shows You Who They Are – And Delilah Does!
In Judges 16, we find the story of Samson and Delilah.
Samson was a man of incredibly great strength who had been dedicated in service to God upon his birth.
On the flip side, Delilah was a harlot. But oh how she caught the attention of our friend Samson!
Unfortunately, Delilah wasn’t exactly as devoted to Samson as he was to her. She was paid 1,100 pieces of silver by his enemies, the Philistines, to find out what the source of his strength was so that they could defeat him and kill him.
Samson had been a big headache for the Philistines. He was a real thorn in their side! He had killed more than his fair share of them and they were now dedicated to getting rid of him.
Love Blinds You
Samson was totally infatuated with Delilah. He was deeply in love with her in fact. So, the Philistines knew she would be able to charm him into telling her his secret.
So, Delilah asks Samson what it is that could remove his strength, what was that one thing that could cause him to be defeated.
The first time he lies to her. He tells her that if he is tied with seven bowstrings, not yet dried, he will become weak like any other man.
That evening, while he sleeps, Delilah binds him with seven bowstrings that had been brought to her by the Philistines. Then she yells to him that the Philistines are upon him!! He wakes up and busts out like it was just string.
He lied to her for a reason! He didn’t fully trust her!
When Someone Shows You Who They Are – Trust Your Instincts in Relationships
She proved his instinct correct. She betrayed him.
So, does Samson dump Delilah and run for the hills after this obvious attempt at removing his strength?
No, he stays with her!! Not only does he stay with her, but he also does it again! And then again a third time!!
THREE times he gives her false information and THREE times she attempts to use the information against him!!
You must read this and wonder what on earth he was thinking!! Dude, she is trying to get you killed!! This could qualify as a series on the Investigation Discovery channel!!
Is he SO infatuated with this woman that he completely throws reason out the window?? Yes! Yes he is!
He obviously had some degree of distrust if he thought to lie to her three times!! He clearly saw all the red flags! After all, when people keep trying to kill you based on information your beloved is giving them, that’s a pretty big red flag! But he keeps doing it!!
When Someone Shows You Who They Are – Being Transparent
Some of us do that in life! I’ve been guilty of it myself! It could be a relationship, a job, anything in our lives.
Delilah was showing Samson exactly who she was!
He could quite easily see she is trying to trap him, but he chooses to ignore the danger signs and stays with her!
In her defense, she is being very overt about who she is! She is being quite transparent about it!
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. She fooled him THREE times and doesn’t stop there!! Shame Samson, shame!
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. She fooled him THREE times and doesn’t stop there!! Shame Samson, shame! #TRUTH #RELATIONSHIPS
So, after this, she really heaps it on. She pours it on like maple syrup!
YOU DON’T LOVE ME!
IF YOU LOVED ME YOU WOULD TELL ME HOW TO DESTROY YOU!
If You Really Loved Me
How many of us have heard that before?
IF YOU REALY LOVED ME YOU WOULD…
IF YOU REALLY LIKE YOUR JOB YOU WOULD…
IF YOU WERE A GOOD CHRISTIAN YOU WOULD…
But instead of saying ‘Bye Felicia’, or in this case, ‘Delilah’, he listens to her pestering him for DAYS about where he gets his strength from. Finally, he gives in. She wears him down and he tells her what would remove his strength from him.
He tells her it is his hair. If his hair is cut, he loses his strength and becomes just like any other man.
And, SURPRISE! What does she do? She has his hair shaved while he sleeps!!
The Philistines come in and she yells to him again that the Philistines are upon him except, this time, he had no strength. He was unable to defend himself against them.
He is captured by the Philistines, locked up, blinded, and made to perform for them like a circus clown. Ultimately he dies and takes thousands of Philistines with him. They had taken him to their temple of Dagon and he asked to rest against one of the pillars. He prayed for God to give him the strength to destroy them and God answered his prayer. He tore down the temple like it was made of paper.
“So it happened, when their hearts were merry, that they said, “Call for Samson, that he may perform for us.” So they called for Samson from the prison, and he performed for them. And they stationed him between the pillars. Then Samson said to the lad who held him by the hand, “Let me feel the pillars which support the temple, so that I can lean on them.” Now the temple was full of men and women. All the lords of the Philistines were there—about three thousand men and women on the roof watching while Samson performed.
Then Samson called to the Lord, saying, “O Lord God, remember me, I pray! Strengthen me, I pray, just this once, O God, that I may with one blow take vengeance on the Philistines for my two eyes!” And Samson took hold of the two middle pillars which supported the temple, and he braced himself against them, one on his right and the other on his left. Then Samson said, “Let me die with the Philistines!” And he pushed with all his might, and the temple fell on the lords and all the people who were in it. So the dead that he killed at his death were more than he had killed in his life.” NKJV
Delilah literally was the death of him, and many others as well.
Yet through it all, Delilah was showing Samson exactly who she was!
Delilah literally was the death of him, and many others as well. Yet through it all, Delilah was showing Samson exactly who she was!
When Someone Shows You Who They Are Believe Them!
When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM! If a situation shows you what it really is, BELIEVE IT. When a job shows you exactly what you’ll have to give up or compromise, BELIEVE IT. When God is showing you something isn’t right for you, BELIEVE HIM.
Don’t think it will change, don’t think YOU can change the person or job or circumstance, don’t believe a person will somehow magically change after you marry them. BELIEVE THEM! LISTEN TO THE WARNING SIRENS!!
YOU cannot change them! Only God can change them!
If you have a great guy but he watches sports constantly and it drives you NUTS, don’t marry him thinking once you’re married you’re going to get him to stop watching!! You marry him if you KNOW you can live with him watching sports!!
He is showing you he is into watching sports all the time! Either accept that about him or don’t marry him. Better yet, start watching with him!! But don’t think you can change him! That is who he is!
If a man cheats on you while you are dating, don’t marry him thinking that will change once he is married!! He is showing you who he is!!
When you interview for a job, if they are letting you know up front you are going to be working a lot of hours with little pay, or that you will have to lie or compromise your integrity for sales, don’t take it thinking once you get in there you are going to change things! They are telling you how it is!!
Heed the Warning Signs!
They are right there..waving in your face! When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM! Don’t turn a blind eye like our friend Samson did.
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Scripture taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved