If you are around my age or older, you probably remember the song by Tom Jones, “Why Why Why Delilah?” Well, I am sure one of our Biblical heroes said that very thing! I love honesty and transparency. But sometimes in life, we can be staring the truth in the face and choose to ignore it. Even worse, sometimes we believe we can change it. When someone shows you who they are, believe them!
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In Judges 16, we have the story of Samson and Delilah.
Samson was a man of great strength who had been dedicated in service to God upon his birth.
On the flip side, Delilah was a harlot. But she caught the attention of our friend Samson.
Unfortunately, Delilah wasn’t exactly devoted to Samson. She was paid 1,100 pieces of silver by his enemies, the Philistines, to find out where he got his strength so that they could defeat him and kill him.
Samson had been giving the Philistines a lot of headaches. He was a real thorn in their side! He had killed his fair share of them and they were dedicated to getting rid of him.
Samson was totally infatuated with Delilah. He was deeply in love with her in fact. So, the Philistines knew she would be able to charm him into telling her his secret.
So, Delilah asks Samson what it is that could remove his strength, what was that one thing that could cause him to be defeated.
The first time he lies to her. He tells her that if he is tied with seven bowstrings, not yet dried, he will become weak like any other man.
So, while he sleeps, Delilah binds him with seven bowstrings that had been brought to her by the Philistines. Then she yells to him that the Philistines are upon him!! He wakes up and busts out like it was just string.
He lied to her for a reason! He didn’t fully trust her!
Trust Your Instincts
She proved his instinct correct. She betrayed him.
So, does Samson dump Delilah and run for the hills after this obvious attempt at removing his strength?
No; he stays with her!! Not only does he stay with her, but he also does it again! And then again a third time!!
THREE times he gives her false information and THREE times she attempts to use the information against him!!
You must read this and wonder what on earth he was thinking!! Dude, she is trying to get you killed!! This could qualify as a show on Investigation Discovery channel!!
Is he SO infatuated with this woman that he completely throws reason out the window?? Yes!
He obviously had some degree of distrust if he thought to lie to her three times!! But he keeps doing it!!
Truth and Transparency
Some of us do that in life! I’ve been guilty of it myself! It could be a relationship, a job, anything in our lives.
Delilah was showing Samson exactly who she was!
He can see she is trying to trap him but he ignores the danger signs and continues to stick around.
In her defense, she is being very overt about who she is!
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. She fooled him THREE times and doesn’t stop there!! Shame Samson, shame!
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So, after this, she really heaps it on.
YOU DON’T LOVE ME!
IF YOU LOVED ME YOU WOULD TELL ME!
How many of us have heard that before?
IF YOU LOVED ME YOU WOULD…
IF YOU REALLY LIKE YOUR JOB YOU WOULD…
IF YOU WERE A GOOD CHRISTIAN YOU WOULD…
But instead of saying ‘Bye Felicia’…or in this case, ‘Delilah’, he listens to her pestering him for DAYS about where he gets his strength. Finally, he gives in..she wears him down…and he tells her.
He tells her it is his hair. If his hair is cut, he loses his strength and becomes just like any other man.
And, SURPRISE! What does she do? She has his hair shaved while he sleeps!!
The Philistines come in and she yells to him again that the Philistines are upon him except, this time, he had no strength.
He is captured by the Philistines, locked up, made to perform for them like a circus clown. Ultimately he dies and takes thousands of Philistines with him because his hair had grown back in while he was kept prisoner so he had regained his strength.
Delilah literally was the death of him, and many others as well.
Yet through it all, Delilah was showing Samson exactly who she was!
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When Someone Shows You Who They Are Believe Them!
When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM! When a situation shows you what it really is, BELIEVE IT. When a job shows you exactly what you’ll have to give up or compromise, BELIEVE IT. When God is showing you something isn’t right for you, BELIEVE HIM.
Don’t think it will change, don’t think YOU can change the person or job or circumstance, don’t believe a person will somehow magically change after you marry them. BELIEVE THEM! LISTEN TO THE WARNING SIRENS!!
YOU cannot change them! Only God can change them!
If you have a great guy but he watches sports constantly and it drives you NUTS, don’t marry him thinking once you’re married you’re going to get him to stop watching!! You marry him if you KNOW you can live with him watching sports!!
He is showing you he is into watching sports all the time! Either accept that about him or don’t marry him. Better yet, start watching with him!! But don’t think you can change him! That is who he is!
If a man cheats on you while you are dating, don’t marry him thinking that will change once he is married!! He is showing you who he is!!
If you interview for a job and they are letting you know up front you are going to be working a lot of hours with little pay, or that you will have to lie or compromise your integrity for sales, don’t take it thinking once you get in there you are going to change things! They are telling you how it is!!
Heed the Warning Signs!
They are right there..waving in your face! When someone shows you who they are BELIEVE THEM! Don’t turn a blind eye like our friend Samson did.
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