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How to Stop Being Double Minded

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Knowing how to stop being double minded and living boldly begins with really knowing what being double minded is! What makes a person double minded and what does the Bible say about it?

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How to Stop Being Double Minded – Define It

I was reading a verse in the Book of James about being double minded that really hit home with me late last week. It was this verse:

“Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” James 4:8 NIV

The phrase “double minded” comes from the Greek word “dipsychos” and it means uncertain, doubting. It also means divided in interest.

Double minded means that you are wavering and divided between two interests.


Divided in interest.

It hit me pretty hard, I will be honest, and I had to face some truths about myself right here.

Have you ever posted something on Facebook and set the permissions so only certain people can see it?


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Guilty! I have done that many a time, and sometimes it is for good reason.

Sometimes it’s just because it only pertains to certain people so I don’t want to bog down people’s newsfeeds with something that only interests a few, like maybe a family related post.

Or maybe it is super personal that I only want close friends and family to see. Those are all fairly good reasons.

But that wasn’t what bothered me.



What bothered me were the other posts I set permissions on.

I might post something related to my faith and set it for a certain audience because I didn’t want people to label me or judge me for my beliefs. I didn’t want to be judged by people who might have a wrong perception of what faith in ChristHow to Stop Being Double Minded 3 is truly about or what I represent.

Then There Was the Opposite

The funny memes or off-color posts I might think are funny so I share them but hide them from my Christian friends because I don’t want them to think I am acting in a way that is ungodly. They weren’t BAD or anything most people would find offensive. I DO live my walk as much as possible! I just thought people might be too harsh and judge me for it.  I didn’t trust people not to judge!

The makeup and fashion I love so much, I hid from my Christian friends because I feared being labeled as caring about “worldly things”. But loving those things is NOT wrong! Making an idol out of them is wrong! Finding your worth in them is wrong. But enjoying those things (and oh, I do) is not wrong! Enjoying them for fun is not wrong! And if anyone were to judge me for it, the issue is more with them than me!

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Fear of Being Judged

Basically, I was fearing the judgment of man. So I compromised. I was being double minded.

I was portraying one “me” to one group and the other “me” to the other group and NEITHER me was bad or wrong!!  That is the odd thing about it. I don’t post anything that is ungodly or fanatical!! I was worried about someone’s perception of me versus the reality of me.


So, I tried to be one person to one group and another person to the other and the truth was somewhere in the middle.

My interests were divided. I had one set for one and another for the other!




This is Who I Am

You see, if my friends dislike me because of my faithHow to Stop Being Double Minded 4 then I don’t need those friends. Period! It sounds harsh but it is true!

My faith is who I am. If you love me as my friend, then you love me BECAUSE of my faith because that is what shapes the person I am.

If my Christian friends dislike me for my weird humor or my love of fashion or my loud-mouthed NY attitude, that’s more their issue than mine. God didn’t make us all alike and there’s a good reason for that! We balance out the church that way!

Romans 12:4-5 says:

“For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others.” NIV

We weren’t made the same! Our toes and our fingers have different functions and offer different benefits, but are all part of the same body.



How to Stop Being Double Minded – It Starts With Trust

You see it really all came down to a lack of trust.

I didn’t trust my Christian friends with the weird, crazy side of me and I didn’t trust my non-Christian friends with the part that is truly ALL of me; the Christian.

I was literally living like a split personality and in the end, no one knew the real me; the WHOLE me.

I wasn’t being fake. After all, each was truly a part of who I am. But I wasn’t being real either.


How to Stop Being Double Minded – Living Boldly

James 1:6-8 says that a double mindedHow to Stop Being Double Minded 5 man is:

“…like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.” ESV


How could I ever go to God and ask for anything if I live in doubt and divided in my interests? If I am blown and tossed by the winds of opinion or judgment of people, how can I ever expect God to trust me with what I am praying for?

So, I decided to live boldlyHow to Stop Being Double Minded 6! Boldly in my faith and boldly in my humor! I have decided to be the authentic ME!  Take me or leave me but at least it will be the REAL me you’re getting! And what God thinks of me and who He made me to be is far more important.

Living boldly and living authentically!

If I don’t feel comfortable enough to share a post with my Christian friends, then maybe I shouldn’t be posting it!! And if I don’t feel comfortable posting something for my non-Christian friends to see, then I need to re-examine my heart and whether I am trying to please God or man!

So how do you stop being double minded? Live to please GodHow to Stop Being Double Minded 7, not man! Look at all you do through the lens of the Word How to Stop Being Double Minded 8and not the lens of friends or family. Look at the opinion of God, not the opinions of friends on Facebook. And if you are pleasing God, then that is all that matters!

If you’ve ever experienced this fear of judgment or fear of losing popularity, comment below and let me know how you stepped out boldly yourself!

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4 thoughts on “How to Stop Being Double Minded”

  1. I left my faith many years ago, more like a cult. But I definitely agree with you about being the authentic YOU with whichever path one takes in life. We need to stop living in fear of what others have to say about who we are. Good for you and great article. Very inspiring.

    1. Diane Ferreira

      I am sorry you left your faith because of what sounds like a bad experience you had. Just know that our faith is not religion based. Religion is a bunch of man-made rules and doctrine to follow that is more about pleasing man than God. Our faith is a relationship…it is a one to one relationship with God. I would love to chat with you more if you’d like. I am so sorry that your experience caused you to leave your faith!

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