Do you have a tendency to hold on to things from the past? It could be past hurts or the remnants of emotional abuse. Whether it comes from a close family member or someone we barely know, being broken by someone’s words or actions can last a very long time (sometimes forever) when we hold on to those unresolved feelings instead of giving it all to God. Learn how to break through those unresolved feeling and the sense of being broken! Read on to find out more!
Being Broken Like My Broken Plate
And, as a result, I dropped one!
That plate had hit the hardwood floor HARD! As I said, it was a heavy plate.
It smashed into pieces, but thankfully large pieces. I gathered them up and threw them in the trash and looked around to be sure I got all of them so that no one would end up with a cut on their foot!
But the broken pieces of that plate were so big that it looked like you could just glue those few together and it would be whole again. Not as pretty of course, but whole. I was just relieved it didn’t smash into a thousand bits with dogs and kids in the house.
Well, I love to go barefoot, especially in the summer! I am just NOT a sock or shoe person in the house!
Later on that day, as I was getting dinner ready, I felt this stabbing pain in my foot. I looked down and there was a small, very thin shard of that plate sticking out. It was small but oh, did it hurt! Have you ever noticed that the smallest nicks hurt the most?
I then knelt down on the floor and, on closer examination, saw these tiny, barely visible bits of that plate on the floor.
I didn’t even notice them before and the broom apparently didn’t get them because they were too small and went right through the bristles. In fact, they were so small I had to get a wet rag in order to lift them off the floor.
It had appeared as though all the pieces I picked up earlier would have made the broken plate whole again, but they didn’t exactly.
These tiny, unnoticeable fragments remained and would have made the plate incomplete had I glued it back in place. It would have come back together for the most part, and may have even been somewhat functional, but there were pieces missing that would have kept it from being whole.
And as I stood there dealing with these tiny fragments of what was broken, God brought to mind the issues I had been struggling with that I thought I had dealt with in my life. I was living life being broken too, just like that plate.
Being Broken Like the Plate
While picking up these tiny, barely visible pieces, God showed me that I too had been broken! My life had been spent being broken like that plate was.
There were things that happened in my life, things that people said that hurt me. I thought I had dealt with them all. I knew all about my being broken as a young adult and definitely as a teenager, but I thought it was dealt with!
I thought I had picked them all up, brought them all and turned them over to God. But He showed me there were some small fragments of the past I hadn’t quite noticed yet that were missing.
There were these small pieces of my past, my hurt, my pain, that I hadn’t collected and handed over to Him. Those little pieces, like the fragments of the broken plate, were barely noticeable but they were hurting me and preventing my wholeness. This affected everyone around me and we never knew why.Those little pieces, like the fragments of the broken plate, were barely noticeable but were hurting me and preventing my wholeness. Click To Tweet
I thought that dealing with the bigger issues was enough, but God showed me that these smaller pieces of my past were just as painful as the bigger ones, if not more so.
The biting remarks from a family member…..
“That girl is prettier than you”
“You’re a failure. You always were a failure, you’ll always be a failure”
Being Broken – Ending Those Toxic Relationships
There were the results of lies told and false accusations made by someone close to me who, for some unknown reason, just wanted to cause pain. This same person who had caused me pain in the past with their words.
These were things I thought I had dealt with by just ending those toxic relationships, but I hadn’t dealt with the hurt and sting of those remarks, those lies, those accusations.
I had forgiven and I had moved on, but I hadn’t given over those painful words. I was living the resulting pain and self-image I inherited from them every single day and was still allowing them to make me feel insecure and unworthy.
I had believed them for so long that I didn’t recognize that, in spite of ending the relationship, in spite of forgiving the person and releasing that to God, I hadn’t let Him take the wounds the hurt had caused.
Fragments remained that were still being allowed to pierce me, like that barely visible sliver from that broken plate.
Only these pierced my heart, not my foot. These hurt because other people chose to side with this person out of obligation and didn’t even care about the pain they caused me.
There is little pain in this world than the pain that is caused when your own family or those closest to you turns their back on your personal pain. But our Messiah knows what that pain is like.
Giving it All to God When You Feel Broken
When you feel broken, it is not enough to give God only the bigger problems and bigger issues. We need to give Him the tiny fragments as well, casting ALL our cares on Him. Not only the bigger aspect of our cares but each and every tiny piece.
We don’t have to hide being broken but we often do, even without knowing it.
We want to appear whole. And we MAY appear to be whole. The world may see us and think we have everything together! But we look inside ourselves and see that something is just missing. There are tiny pieces that we haven’t picked up and given to the Lord.
God is not just the God of our big problems. He cares about those tiny fragments as well.God is not just the God of our big problems. He cares about those tiny fragments as well. Click To Tweet
How Can You Heal From Being Broken?
Matthew 5:44 CJB
"But I tell you, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you!"
1 Peter 5:6-7 CJB
"Therefore, humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, so that at the right time he may lift you up. Throw all your anxieties upon him, because he cares about you."
Matthew 11:28-30 TLV
"Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and ‘you will find rest for your souls.’ For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”
Proverbs 19:11 CJB
"People with good sense are slow to anger, and it is their glory to overlook an offense."
Luke 9:62 CJB
"To him Yeshua said, “No one who puts his hand to the plow and keeps looking back is fit to serve in the Kingdom of God.”"
Isaiah 58:6 TLV
“Is not this the fast I choose:to release the bonds of wickedness, to untie the cords of the yoke, to let the oppressed go free, and to tear off every yoke?"
Psalm 34:18 TLV
"The righteous cry out and Adonai hears, and delivers them from all their troubles."
What broken pieces have you let go unnoticed? Is there anything you are leaving behind that needs to be picked up and carried to the cross? Are you still carrying the weight and feeling of being broken long after you thought you turned it over to God? Comment below and we would love to pray for you.
CJB – Taken from the Complete Jewish Bible by David H. Stern. Copyright © 1998. All rights reserved. Used by permission of Messianic Jewish Publishers, 6120 Day Long Lane, Clarksville, MD 21029. www.messianicjewish.net.
Tree of Life (TLV) – Scripture taken from the Holy Scriptures, Tree of Life Version*. Copyright © 2014,2016 by the Tree of Life Bible Society. Used by permission of the Tree of Life Bible Society.