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  1. Thank you for this wonderful advice, Diane. Not too long ago, I was betrayed by an older family member. I need to go back and read this post again for more insight into how to handle that situation. I should be guided by Jesus’ example.

    1. I am sorry you went through that Laurie. I’ve been there a couple of times myself and it is not always easy to forgive and move on, especially when the person doesn’t even seem to feel they did anything wrong. I will be praying for you!

  2. Even under the best of circumstances, friendship is a risk, but when things go badly, it’s good to have these redemptive strategies in mind. Thanks for sharing!

  3. It’s such a comfort to remember that Jesus knows exactly how we feel when we face things like this. What a beautiful gift He gave us in this. And the fact that He didn’t *have* to do it, rather He *chose* to do it is beyond.

  4. This one really resonates with me. I was hurt, betrayed, by what I thought was my best friend two years’ ago. I was honest and shared with her how I felt, but not before a couple of months had gone by. She didn’t take my honesty very well, but we are starting to heal the friendship. Girl, you are always reading what’s in my mind!

    1. I went through the same thing. Sometimes being honest about how someone made you feel only sparks a defensive fire in them and they can’t see how they made you feel because they’re focused on defending themselves. But sometimes after time has passed so have those defensive feelings and healing can start. Thanks so much Sue!!

  5. It’s true that forgiveness is for our own peace of mind! Thanks so much for this reminder, Diane. Blessings to you!

  6. It is a deep wound anytime betrayal happens and you have laid out the best way to start the healing process. We may have to go back and keep repeating the step such as giving it to God and even the process of forgiveness but our Jehovah Rapha will continue to pour out His healing love and grace. He will bring healing and oftentimes we have new insight of wisdom for future situations.

  7. True! Although, I have often wished it was easier! Prayer helps, it is hard to be angry at someone you are praying for. Many Thanks 8)

  8. Thanks for this lovely post Diane. So much truth here! Holding on to anger and/or bitterness only hurts the holder, never the intended target. Many times the one we are angry at or bitter toward doesn’t even have a clue! Pinned and tweeted. Thanks for linking up at instaEncouragements!

  9. You nailed it on forgiveness. It really is more for us than the other person who wronged us. Great wisdom here. Thank you – Maree

      1. Diane – I picked this post to feature on Friday. Thank you! Your post has been instrumental in my world this past week. Maree

  10. It;s so hard to always do the right thing in these situations, but this is great advice. laurensparks.net

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