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I would have never guessed that I would receive a lesson on unmet expectations from a simple cup of coffee one morning, but God certainly has a way of teaching us what we need when we need it in the most interesting of ways!

 

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Unmet Expectations – My Morning Coffee

I woke up Monday morning absolutely exhausted. I didn’t sleep well the night before and my stomach was upset so I was just extremely tired and cranky! I knew I needed coffee and I needed it NOW!

 

I am sure many of you know that feeling where you question how you can function enough to make coffee when you cannot function without coffee?

 

I stumbled into the kitchen and made myself some iced coffeeUnmet Expectations - A Powerful Lesson From a Cup of Coffee 2 and grabbed some water and went to sit in my living room. I always have my coffee and my water in stainless steel tumblersUnmet Expectations - A Powerful Lesson From a Cup of Coffee 4 that are exactly the same except for the color and design on the outside.

 


 

So I sat on my couch and placed my coffee in one cupholder and my water in the other. I was distracted by looking at my phoneUnmet Expectations - A Powerful Lesson From a Cup of Coffee 6 when I grabbed my coffee and took a sip. Oh boy was I was immediately disgusted!! I had grabbed my water instead.

 

Now, I need to make it clear; I LOVE water. Actually, that is an understatement! I am literally obsessed with water. I have a tumbler of water with me everywhere I go. I cannot get enough of it. I do not leave the house without it.

 

 



 

Not What I Expected

Yet, when I thought it was coffee, it tasted horrible!

 

The very thing I usually love now tasted disgusting to me because I EXPECTED coffee when I took that sip. And when you expect coffee and get water (come on coffee lovers, can I get an amen??), your mind immediately processes it as it would as though it were coffee; bad, tasteless coffee.

 


 

You see, when we have expectations in life that are met with something other than what we wanted or expected, it can seem unpalatable to us. Even though under any other circumstances we would love what we got, we despise it because it didn’t meet our expectations. Unmet expectations in life cause us to be ungrateful.

 

Unmet Expectations in Life

Life is like that! Marriage is definitely like that!

 

When we have expectations of people or circumstances that are not met, we could feel disappointment, disgust, anger, even resentment.

 

 

It could have been that what we got instead would have been acceptable to us or even made us happy if we hadn’t placed an expectation on it. But because WE decided what the outcome should be, it was no longer pleasing to us, even if it was good.

 


 

An Example of Unmet Expectations in Life

An example of this is a wife who has a birthday. She THINKS her husband is going to get her a gift she really wants. She has been dropping hints about it for a long time. But he comes home and instead of the gift she wanted she received a diamond necklaceUnmet Expectations - A Powerful Lesson From a Cup of Coffee 8.

 

The necklace is beautiful and expensive. He spent HOURS picking it out just for her. But she had an expectation of what she wanted.

 

So she looks at this necklace, a necklace that she normally would have loved, with disappointment and maybe even anger at her husband who thought he was getting her the best gift he could.

 

What expectations are you placing on people or situations that are causing you to not enjoy the blessings you receive?

 

 

What Are You Expecting From God?

Do you have things you are expecting from God and then getting upset when He doesn’t meet those expectations?

 

Are you expecting Him to answer a prayer the way you want rather than just looking for His will in the situation? Are you looking at His answers, His blessings, with disappointment just because your expectation wasn’t met?

 


 

Do you have unmet expectations from God in your prayer lifeUnmet Expectations - A Powerful Lesson From a Cup of Coffee 10? God may be answering your prayer but it may not look like what YOU determined it should.

 

In the process, you could be missing the blessing.

 


 

Praying Like Jesus

Jesus was in the Garden of Gethsemane crying out to the Father in prayer. Luke 22:42 shows us Jesus saying:


“Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” NIV

 

Unmet Expectations - A verse from Luke 22:42 with pink flowers in the background

 

Jesus didn’t get upset or angry because He had to go to the cross in spite of this prayer. He surrendered His will in that moment of humanity, that moment of pain and fear, to His Father and He accepted the answer God gave.

 


 

Often we pray for God’s will to be done but then get upset when it is not what we expected. It is more than just a flowery phrase we utter during prayer. It is the surrender of our will to His knowing He loves us. It is the ultimate exercise of trust and faith!

 

Not my will, but Yours be done!

Unmet Expectations Bible Verses

Proverbs 13:12

Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. (NIV)

Proverbs 11:7

Hopes placed in mortals die with them; all the promise of their power comes to nothing. (NIV)

Psalm 62:5

My soul, wait silently for God alone, For my expectation is from Him. (NKJV)

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.(NKJV)

2 Corinthians 1:20

For all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the glory of God through us. (NKJV)

Ask God to reveal to you any expectations that you may be placing on Him or on the people in your life and trust God to meet your needs according to His will, not your own!

 

What you get may not be what you expected but it will always be the best!

 

 

 


Other Posts Like ‘Unmet Expectations’ You Might Enjoy:

WAITING ON GOD’S TIMING – ARE YOU BIRTHING AN ISHMAEL?

PERSONAL COMMUNION – ARE YOU JUST MOWING GOD’S LAWN?

PRAYER IS A CONVERSATION WITH GOD – SO WHY AREN’T WE LISTENING?

NOT OF THIS WORLD – HAVING 1 FOOT IN THE KINGDOM AND 1 IN THE WORLD

WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU THEIR TRUE COLORS

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Scripture taken from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

 


 

 

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Diane is a wife and mom, a Jewish believer in Yeshua (Jesus) and yes, a blogger. In addition to owning Worth Beyond Rubies, she also co-owns other sites such as Faithful CEOs which helps Christian bloggers and businesses, Hot Flashy Faith which is a site for women over 40 and everything important to them, and Women of Worth Café another site for Christian women with Bible studies, devotions and the Jewish roots of the faith. Diane lives in BEAUTIFUL Northwestern Connecticut and when she is not blogging, you will find her spending time with her husband and kiddos out on their little mini-farm.

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    Robert
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    This is really good. Thanks for posting this. The necklace example reminds me of one birthday when I wanted a drum machine, had dropped hints about it and ended up getting some Star Trek wall posters instead which I then felt obligated to put up on my wall. The two were not quite the same thing! God does often answer things differently, but then I think it’s more about whether we allow the thing we’ve been hoping for to become the source of our happiness and turn into an idol, especially when that thing is not met. Are we seeking… Read more »

    Tea With Jennifer
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    It appears Diane, we have a theme going! Or possibly God does! Wink, wink…You may enjoy my post “Berry tea & Expresso coffee”

    You’re welcome to drop by for a cup of inspiration,
    Jennifer

    lanell
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    This discussion brought up issues from the past that I haven’t really wanted to deal with and need to address. Great examples to share and help over come.

    Andrew Restrepo @ TheRoadToEmmaus.ca
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    What an important lesson! It’s true – our expectations can often make us ungrateful for all of the wonderful things we have in life. Thanks for sharing. God bless you.

    Donna Miller
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    This is so good! And SO TRUE!! Love how the Lord reveals things to us through the simple things in life, like coffee! I need to put all my expectations on God and let Him take care of me in His way! ❤

    Sarah @ Freedom is Hers
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    This is so great!!!! I really really love how God uses such simple things like coffee to teach us important lessons. I remember being on a walk and I saw a little plant pushing up through the pavement. God showed me strength and perseverance in that moment and I still picture that sweet little plant that worked so hard to get to the sun.

    Jen Cannon
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    I really enjoyed reading this and I can relate on many levels. I have been dealing with chronic illness for 2 years. I pray for healing, my husband prays for healing and my church family prays for healing. Healing hasn’t come. God’s healing doesn’t come in the forms that we anticipate and our idea of healing isn’t necessarily what God sees as our true healing.

    Thank you so much for sharing this perspective.

    Mommy & Mia Homeschool
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    I really enjoyed this you hit so many points right on the head. So many times are expectations block from the blessings! Thank you for this!

    Rachel Mayew
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    Oh, Diane! This post rang my bell, and might have punched my ego in the gut! I’ve been writing to understand the benefits of prayer, even when it seems they go unanswered. It has been an amazing journey. So cool to see how God uses everyday things to get our attention. I love seeing other writers write about the same topic, from different perspectives. I am especially humbled when I get thrown in the mix! Tells me he has a message that bears repeating! He’s so good to give us confirmation after confirmation after confirmation.

    Kim Turner McCulley
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    What a great illustration! I think expectations are probably the most difficult challenge in marriage…especially when both parties are conflict avoidant and don’t state their expectations. (Not that I know ANYTHING about that, hahaha!). I’ll be tweeting and pinning this post!

    Kristin Cook
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    Yes! This is so true and something that I needed to hear. I do that a lot with my spouse. He shows me he loves me all the time, but instead of being happy about that, I get frustrated because it’s not in the way I wanted to be shown. That’s for the holy slap in the face. Lol. That’s a good thing, btw.

    Sophie
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    This post speaks volumes. I try to ground myself as much as I can and give thanks for the simple things that we tend to take for granted. However, I do have my moments where I expect a certain thing and do get upset if it’s not what I had hoped. Most of the time I end up feeling guilty because that’s such a sad way to look at things. We got from point A to point B, but it wasn’t in the matter that I had hoped. OH. WELL!

    Angie
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    This is very thought provoking. Expectations can make or break an event. I might share this idea with my students when school starts. Thanks!!

    Deb Wolf
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    Guilty as charged! But hopefully, by God’s grace, I’m learning to do better. I want to trust His provision and follow where He leads but too often I sound like those Exodus wanderers. I’m so thankful for His patience and willingness to show me a better way! Fantastic post, Diane!

    Tiff
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    Seriously! What a great lesson! This is so applicable to our daily lives. I struggle with expectations constantly, usually when it comes to my kids. ??‍♀️ I am constantly having to remind myself that my expectations need to be lowered, because otherwise I get overly frustrated with petty things. One simple thing can ruin my mood if I have set my expectations too high. Thanks for this great reminder!

    Linda
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    This! So so true! Currently going through a situation in which I have put an expectation on God. Of course, it’s all in His hands and His timing – but it’s funny how we throw our own expectations around like confetti. This was a great reminder that the “Man Upstairs” has it all under control and how I need to release my expectations to Him and let His will be done!

    Cayla
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    Such an amazing post and something that I definitely needed to read this week. Thank you for sharing!

    Laura at Cheered on Mom
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    Love this! I’ve absolutely placed expectations on God. Timing is the first thing that comes to mind, especially with having kids. But He knows best! Unmet expectations are one of the biggest barriers to a healthy marriage as well, I’ve found. My hubby and I have had 16 years so far to work on it, and we’re improving! 🙂

    Brittany
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    This is so crazy! I did the exact same thing today when I picked up my coke and took a sip expecting thinking it was my water bottle. I was actually disgusted, and I threw the coke in the trash can. My students who witnessed the whole event take place were so confused. Like, what was wrong with the coke? I really had no response except I though I was taking a huge sip of water. I love coke. I bought the coke. There was absolutely nothing wrong with it except it wasn’t water. What a powerful comparison you have… Read more »

    Amanda
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    This is so powerful! Its amazing how often we undermine our happiness by trying to control it.