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Finding Strength in God – Praying During Trials

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Why is it so hard for me to pray when life turns upside down and I should be finding strength in God?

Many people turn to God more when they go through difficult times. When things go wrong, they draw closer to the source of all comfort and lean on Him more. Many people actually find God to begin with when they go through traumatic life experiences. But what about people, like me, who find it difficult to pray when we go through tough times?

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Finding Strength in God – Emotional Shutdown

I am an introvert by nature and I believe that is part of why I go through an emotional shutdown, even from God, when I go through trials. Throughout my life, especially in my past relationships, I learned to bottle up my feelings and rely on myself because I couldn’t rely on anyone else.

This sense of “wallowing” (for lack of a better word) carried over into my relationship with GodFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 3. I experience that emotional shutdown when I go through trauma of any kind, even when it is not severe. Instead of finding strength in God I will often find myself giving in to this fight or flight response.


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Finding Strength in God – When Life Happens

When life happens, finding strength in God can easily be something we miss! It has certainly been the case with me lately. Stressors happen and it becomes so easy to hyper-focus on them.

First, we have been trying to buy a homeFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 5 and each and every time we enter into contract, the home is found to be far worse upon our inspection than we anticipated. It has been costly, since each time we have to pay for the inspection just to find out we wouldn’t be moving forward.

I developed viral pinkeyeFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 6 and three weeks and two prescriptions later and it not only hadn’t gone away, but the virus spread to other organs and I developed pleurisy. I ended up at the ER with chest pains.


And then three nights ago, we began hearing noise within the wall on our staircase to our second floor. It got louder and more frequent. It is so loud in fact that it sounds like something is running up and down our stairs.

After inspection by our pest controlFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 7 service, we found we have a mouseFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 8 (or mice) in the wall and they treated the crawl space under the house but it could take up to a week to be rid of them (thankfully they are only in the wall and under the house and there is no sign of them inside).

I have anxiety. Waking up at 3 am to what sounds like a large raccoon bounding down our steps into the kitchen is just a major “trigger” that causes me to feel panicked. It sounds worse than it is apparently since pest controlFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 9 sees evidence of mice and only mice under the house and there is no opening large enough for other wildlife.

But every sound in the wall sends my heart racing and causes me to literally shiver.


Finding Strength in God When You’re Finding It Difficult to Pray

Now I tell you all this, not to complain! My problems are relatively minor, believe me.

I tell you this because, for people like me with anxiety or people who tend to be introvertedFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 10, it is difficult to get outside yourself and unfold, finding it difficult to pray!

I fall back on old habits of bottling up and feeling like I cannot go to GodFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 11 in that state.

But the Bible says in Romans 8:26:

Likewise, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

The WordFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 12 acknowledges there WILL be times when we are so weak that we need to fall upon the intercessionFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 13 of the Spirit! Finding strength in God often means finding peace with our own weakness and leaning on Him alone.

We tend to think of prayer as sitting and telling God our needs or carrying the needs of others to Him. But prayer is also just sometimes coming and falling apart before Him and letting the Spirit do the carrying for us.


It is perfectly OK for me to just stand at the Mercy Seat and say “I’ve got nothing in me. I need you” and He hears and answers! He WANTS you to come to Him even when you’re finding it difficult to pray, or even speak a word!

Your trials, problems, concerns…they are no surprise to God. He knows what you have need of even before you ask!

Matthew 6:8 says:

Do not be like them [pagans], for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.



Finding Strength in God – Cry Out to Jesus

He already knows what you are going through. He knows how distraught you might feel. And He can sympathize with you and knows what is on your heart!

Hebrews 4:15 says:

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.

JesusFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 14 is our high priest, our kohen gadol! He knows our weaknesses! Whether our weaknesses with regards to temptation or our weaknesses with regards to our trials, He gets you!

Don’t feel as though your prayer time needs to be eloquent or even vocal! Go to Him and just BE in His comforting presence and allow the Spirit, the Ruach HaKodeshFinding Strength in God - Praying During Trials 15, to make intercession for you!

As a parent, sometimes our children go through hurtful experiences and maybe don’t want to talk! Sometimes they just need to be held. Like them, as children of God, sometimes we just need our Abba, our Father to hold us! Words are not required!

Finding strength in God is possible in your weakness because it is in our weakness He is shown to be strong! He can do more for me in my trials than I or any other person can do!

Just cry out to Jesus!

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30 thoughts on “Finding Strength in God – Praying During Trials”

  1. Great encouragement here, Diana! I used to struggle with this, too (also an introvert). When I learned to “be real” with God and literally pour out my heart to Him – raw and sometimes ugly – it completely transformed my prayer life and deepened my relationship with Him. Over time, I’ve grown to long for time with Him in prayer when I go through the tough stuff. It’s only by His Spirit that this shift has happened because I could not make myself change. How grateful I am. We have a faithful Intercessor and such a gracious Father!

  2. Tracey Rosenberger

    I think you were reading my diary! Introvert. Bottling up feelings. A touch of anxiety! Thanks for a great post that spoke to my heart.

  3. Ugh, mice! We had mice in our rental as newlyweds, they can be noisier than you would think, right?! It sounded like they were rolling bowling balls through the walls lol. Thanks for sharing these thoughts and verses. As an introvert (with an independent streak), it’s nice to be encouraged by someone wirh similar thought patterns. I hope you feel better soon! Good luck on the house shopping!

    1. Thank you Katrina! Yes!! I cannot believe how loud these little critters can be!! I am glad the post encouraged you! It is always nice to know how other introverts feel!!

  4. There is currently a sign at my church that reads “Let prayer be your first response rather than a last resort.” This post reminded me of that sign. Good advice!

  5. Such a great reminder, Diane, and something I think we’ve all gone through. I like how you compared a child with their parent and how a child endures hurt and closes off from their parent. It truly is important to remember that we don’t need a fancy dialogue with God in those moments, but just to be real with Him like the Psalms show us.

    Thanks again for sharing what’s on your heart!

  6. I would not describe myself as an introvert, but I have many of the same struggles. Sometimes I do turn to God and sometimes I turn against – feeling like “why are you letting this happen?”

    I feel like maybe the hardest part is feeling guilty for turning away and not toward God. Not in the moment, but every time I hear people state that they grow closer to God in the hard times I feel “less than.”

    So thank you for letting me know I am not alone!

    We all process things differently right?

  7. Good luck on your house shopping. I am so sorry about the mouse. Ugh. I think it is easy to wallow in pain and hold it all in. I need to give God my stuff first, not last.

  8. Beautiful words Diane. I can honestly say that I have felt this way many times, or I just did not have it in me to pray. I asked other people to pray, but I could not bring myself to utter words. Thanks for the reminder, that even in these times Jesus is still carrying us.

    1. Amen Angela!! I think so many of us think that prayer Hass to be sitting there talking at God but sometimes it’s just going and sitting in front of him and letting him just do a work in us even when we don’t have the words to say. He wants the time with us not necessarily the words

  9. I am right there with you. It has taken me a long time to cry out to God when I am struggling. I used to think (I still get these feelings) that my problems weren’t big enough to worry God over. There are so many other people going through worse things, why would he want to listen to me? But, I had to remind myself that he is my Father in heaven and WANTS to hear from me.

    1. Amen!! He wants the little things too because when we take the small things to Him it can be dealt with before it becomes a bigger issue!!

  10. That God knows the deep prayers of our hearts even when we can’t vocalize them is an awesome and comforting thing. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Blessings to you!

  11. Diane – I am one of those that usually draws close to God in trials but we are all so different. I struggle more when time are good staying close to him. However, even though I draw close to him in trials sometimes I am at a loss for words. I have found whispering his name JESUS is sometime all I can muster up and that is enough. Also in those time I rely heavily on faithful friends who lift up prayers for me. Loved your post and have shared it. It was packed full of wisdom. Thank you for sharing with Grace & Truth Christian Link-Up. I enjoyed linking up today with your link-up. I hope to visit again. Maree

  12. This caught my eye. “Finding strength in God often means finding peace with our own weakness and leaning on Him alone.” Oh so true. When we admit we are fallible and weak, it brings such relief to us and lets us lean on God.

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