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  1. Smiling and cringing at the same time over this post, because I’ve had the same wonderings myself. Somewhere I read about a woman who wants to have on her tombstone the words, “Demure at Last.” Yes!

  2. Why can’t I be meek and mild like other women? Because God didn’t knit me together that way. I realized a long time ago that God created me uniquely, therefore, I don’t try to fit in or be like others. I’m perfectly fine being who God made me.

    I wish other meek and mild women would stop pushing the narrative that says “good” Christian women are meek and mild. It’s pushed throughout the church/Christian community and it’s not true.

    God created us all uniquely for his purpose. The world would be a hot mess if every woman were meek and mild. We need bold, warrior women too.

    1. Amen!! We are who God created us to be. I had to come to that realization and stop trying to be who other people were. But I also believe we can be warrior women AND be gentle in spirit in how we reflect Christ to others. Thank you Yvonne!

  3. Women were meek and mild to a point. They were strong fierce and steadfast in their belief. Meek and mild is humble and giving of service. Different meanings back than

    1. Meek and mild as a Christian translates more to being slow to anger, gentle, showing Jesus through your interactions with others. Thank you Candy!

  4. I loved reading this as I inserted my own vices that I fuss with every morning. How wonderful that God works with us from where we are, and molds us slowly without ever taking away from our individuality.

  5. Thanks for this excellent post. I can completely identify with this. Not necessarily the desire to be meek and mild, but to conform to the behaviour of other Christians and seem more like them in order to fit in and be accepted. This happens not only in the behaviour expected of us but also the way we do certain ministries.

    When you get into that whole mindset and everyone around you is telling you to do it one way and saying that if you don’t, there’s something wrong with you or that you can’t be in leadership/ serving/ whatever it might be, that’s when you stop being the unique person God created you to be. There can easily be people in influential positions who think there’s only one way to do things and can’t conceive of any other way. I think this has been a constant struggle over the years in different church circles. When you don’t conform, you’re seen as difficult or unable to fit in, when in fact God may be calling you to be different in the first place.

    1. Excellent points Robert!! And I think this happens more than we care to think about in the church! God uses us because we are all different..the Bible even speaks of that when it says we are all different yet parts of one body! Thank you so much for sharing!!

  6. Very good! It’s definitely a balance between “dying to self” and “being who God created you to be”. I’m glad to know I’m not the only Christian out there who struggles with being more than a little outside the box. God is good, and He created us uniquely, and for that, I am greatful!!

  7. This has been my struggle too. I never seem to really fit in, but I know God uses that “differentness” to attract other people in the margins.

  8. Diane, I really enjoyed reading this. Although, I am on the opposite end of the spectrum from you. I wish that I could be more outgoing, be more brave, just be more. God is in control and He knows what He is doing. I will trust Him to guide me where He wants me to go.

    1. Yes!! It works both ways I guess..just like those like me with curly hair always wish it was straight and women with straight hair always want curly LOL

  9. YES! Trying to be more like CHRIST, not like other women!! That is my constant struggle too! Particularly because my mother in law, and sister in law set the bar very VERY high when it comes to begin a woman “with a gentle and quiet spirit.” And they are both the epitome of a “good Christian housewife.” I am always worrying that I’m not being enough for my husband, based on knowing what kind of mom and sister he grew up with. But I’m learning that my focus should be on who God wants ME to be as ME, not as someone else. Thank you so much for this reminder!

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