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A Virtuous Woman – Developing a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry From Proverbs 31 Woman

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A virtuous woman, who can find? We are all too familiar with the Proverbs 31 woman! We strive to be wives, mothers, women like her!  It is that lofty goal I think all of us want to attain. But there is another woman we should seek to be like! A woman who can go on to mentor and help mold that Proverbs 31 woman. She is the Titus 2 woman! We will learn what it means to be a virtuous woman and how to develop a Titus 2 discipleship ministry!

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A Virtuous Woman – A Letter to My Younger Self

What would you tell yourself if you could write a letterA Virtuous Woman - Developing a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry From Proverbs 31 Woman 1and send it back in time? Think about all the advice and wisdom you now possess that you would share with your younger self.A Virtuous Woman - Developing a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry From Proverbs 31 Woman 2

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But there is much about my life that I would have advised myself to do differently. I would have learned to cook much sooner (or at all!), I would have learned how to manage finances…the list goes on and on!

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There are many mistakes I could have avoided with the benefit of a mentor to guide me, that’s for sure.

Now to be clear, mistakes are ok! We learn from them and grow from them and hopefully pass those lesson on to others! In fact it’s those mistakes we make that DO make us good mentors!

What is a Virtuous Woman?

Proverbs 31:10 says:

Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.

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The word ‘virtuous‘ in this verse is the Hebrew word ‘chayil’and it means:

strength, might, efficiency, wealth, army

It means power and might! A virtuous woman is powerful!

Many people hear this verse and think of virtue as we know it in English. We think of pure and high moral standards, but that is not the word the original language references here with regards to a virtuous woman.

Here it describes great strength like an army! 

  • She is strong!
  • She is efficient!
  • She has wealth (not necessarily monetary)!
  • She is one tough lady!

We so often think of how a Christian woman should conduct herself but this chapter of Proverbs wasn’t written about a Christian woman. They did not exist at that time! A virtuous woman was referring to a Jewish wife and mother.

I point this out for one reason; Judaism is a matriarchal society.

Becoming a Titus 2 Woman – Recognizing Being Different Doesn’t Mean “Less Than”

We hear so much about the Bible speaking of how a woman is to be meek and mild, how she is to be obedient to her husband and this is all true! But these behaviors and standards do not come from a place of weakness or of men wanting to control their wives.

Judaism reveres the woman! In fact, my Jewishness was passed down to me by my mother, her mother before her, her mother before her, and so on. It was not passed through the men but the women (although it is becoming increasingly more common now for various sects to recognize it through the father as well).

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In fact, the right of return to Israel or ‘aliyah’, the requirements state in the 2nd Amendment of the Law of Return in Section 1, 4B:

“For the purposes of this Law, “Jew” means a person who was born of a Jewish mother or has become converted to Judaism and who is not a member of another religion.”

So when we read in the Bible about how a woman should conduct herself, she is not being maligned or looked down upon. It is to establish authority, not importance.

Too often in our society we view being different as being “less”. We automatically assume if someone has authority over us it means we are lowly. But do you view your children as less than? Do you see them as having less value just because you have authority over them? 

We too shouldn’t assume women are looked down upon just because they are under biblical authority as well.

A Virtuous Woman is the Heart of the Home

In the home, the man was definitely the head of the household, but the woman was the heart.

The virtuous woman runs her home like a well-oiled machine. She protects all who dwells in it and makes sure they are provided for. In addition, she controlled funds and real estate dealings and she did it on her own as Proverbs 31:16 says:

She considers a field and buys it. From the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.

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She made sure not only her family was cared for, but her servants as well. She was a business woman, a merchandiser, a vintner, a wife, a mother, and a support to her husband and his standing in the community.

It is no wonder with all she does that she is called ‘chayil’.

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I Needed a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry Myself

I wasn’t taught how to be a wife and I wasn’t taught how to be a mother. Everything I learned I had to learn the hard way. And oh boy did I make some mistakes along the way!  I made some doozies!

I got married at 19 and divorced at 21 with a baby! There was nothing wrong with my first husband or even with our marriage. We are still friendly even today! I just didn’t know how to be married! I didn’t know how to handle conflict.

The day after I got married we got in our VW Bug and drove from New York to Virginia where he was stationed in the military. I was alone for the first time in my life and had no one there to guide me or help me through what were, in hindsight, normal marital issues.

There I was, isolated and alone! My friends and my family were all back in New York and this was WAY before the days of the internet!

I have so much advice and wisdom gained through my trials that would have spared my younger self (and others) so much pain and heartache.

But through becoming a Titus 2 woman and having a Titus 2 discipleship ministry, I can help younger women learn from those gains.

Who is the Titus 2 Woman?

You see, we all want to aspire to be Proverbs 31 but we are not to stop there!A Virtuous Woman - Developing a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry From Proverbs 31 Woman 4

Some see that as the end game, the crowning achievement. But it’s not!

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She may not be as popular in teachings but she’s just as important as her Proverbs 31 counterpart. She is the Titus 2 woman. 

We are to learn those lessons in life to be able to go on and achieve what Titus 2 calls us in verses 3-5:

Likewise, older women are to be sanctified in demeanor—not backbiting or enslaved to much wine. Let them be teachers of what is good, so that they may train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be self-controlled, pure, managing their household, kind, submitted to their own husbands, so that God’s word may not be dishonored.

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Note it says to be submissive to their OWN husbands. Again, this is in the context of the family structure and not saying women are beneath men any more than our children are lesser human beings because they are under our authority.

Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry – A Biblical Responsibility

We are to conduct ourselves appropriately so that we can then mentor younger women (whether they be our daughters or younger women within the Church).

Although we may not be able to send those letters back in time to ourselves, we can BE those letters, living epistles if you will, to other women and help them go on to be the wives and mothers they aspire to be!

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We have a Biblical responsibility to mentor younger women as we grow older. What an impactful ministry that is! God has called us to that Titus 2 ministry!

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Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry – Reaching Out to Younger Women of Faith

If I am not actively mentoring young women of faith, if I am not actively teaching young women and girls what I have learned from the mistakes I made along the way and I sit back and watch them make those same mistakes, then not only have I failed to be obedient to the Word but ALL those lessons I have learned benefit no one but me.

Even worse, someone could experience a hardship that I could have possibly helped prevent.

It is very difficult to open up and share your failures; your failures as a wife, a mother, a daughter.

It is tough to do!!

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But those failures, those mistakes, come with invaluable wisdom gained. Our mistakes are not in vain!!

They could be simple mistakes. And mistakes are OK! As I said, our mistakes are not in vain! We all learn from them and there is nothing wrong with young women making them. But we have a Biblical mandate to teach them the ways of the Word, even if they make mistakes around the house!

Mistakes like when I was first married, I thought it would be ok to use regular dishwashing soap in the dishwasher. After cleaning a ton of suds off my kitchen floor I quickly learned that it was not a good plan.A Virtuous Woman - Developing a Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry From Proverbs 31 Woman 5

I have shared that nugget of wisdom with my daughters. They will never do that thanks to my experience (and hopefully the fact that they have more sense than I did!).

Then there are bigger, more painful mistakes to share. Those are not as easy or as hilarious as suds on the floor but they are more valuable.
 

Moving From Proverbs 31 Woman to Titus 2 Discipleship Ministry

If you are a young woman just starting off in life, then sure, strive to be that Proverbs 31 woman.

Will it always go as planned? No! It’s a challenge! Will you mess up? Plenty! And there is nothing wrong with that!!

It is through those messes that God refines us and makes us who we are so that we CAN share with others through that Titus 2 ministry! He gives us the grace to pull through them and learn from them!

You are a virtuous woman! You are strong and you are fierce, like our Proverbs 31 friend! 

Every time you slip up, it will be a lesson that one day your daughter or your niece or a young woman in your church could learn from.

So don’t make becoming a Proverbs 31 woman the goal line for yourself. Make it a stepping stone to fulfilling that much needed, valued, Titus 2 ministry that so many young women need today.

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30 Comments

  1. This is a great post. Women definitely benefit from having loving mentors pour into their lives. I wish I had Christian mentors in my life when I was a 19 year old newlywed – I would have benefited from their wisdom!

  2. Such a good truth! I realized a few years ago that I am now in the Titus 2 Category. I was in a homeschool group for my second set of kids. I realized I was answering questions more than asking them. Mentoring more than being mentored. Teaching instead of learning. I realized it was much a much greater responsibility than getting up early and preparing the family for the day. It was helping other younger Mother’s do not only learn how to do that, but to see their worth and value. Great post!

  3. Such a good point, I’ve been having a similar conversation with my sister in law. I tell my friends multiple times that I can’t believe no one told me how hard motherhood is or gave me any tips to help. I mentor young women and it’s something I hope to do for my whole life.

  4. I love how you described becoming a Proverbs 31 woman a stepping stone. Thank you for that new thought! I know we never “arrive,” but God continues to mold me and shape me to be more like His Son. I won’t reach that goal this side of eternity, but I can pass on to other the wisdom He’s given me as I made mistakes and grown through them. Thank you for this powerful reminder. I loved your words here! Bless you!

  5. I love how you describe the process from Proverbs 31 woman to Titus 2 mentor. I will say that there have been times where I am mentored by younger women. Age is not always a requirement for mentoring and I have been blessed as a result.Thank you for sharing this at #TellHisStory.

  6. It’s amazing how God confirms things to you when you ask Him what it is that He wants you to do next for Him, when you align yourself with the purpose for your life. I was sharing yesterday from my heart in a Christian group yesterday about how I didn’t learn about Christian relationships and how to be a woman of God when I first got saved at 17, but that I have no regrets of the things I went through to become the woman I am today, because God used it all to build my faith and character. I shared how sometimes people are ashamed to share what they have been through in life, when God wants to use it to minister to others; I was one of those people, but not anymore. I openly share what I have been through in life because it encourages others and brings hope. Then I came across your blog post on Pinterest and it confirms that God has been using me to speak into other women’s lives as a Titus 2 mentor. Thank you for sharing this, I have shared the link to this website in my online Women’s group, Daughters of the King.

    1. Thank you so much!! I am so glad it gave you confirmation and you are such a blessing to so many people by sharing your story!!

  7. I love this and it certainly hits close to home:) I still have a hard time acknowledging that I’ve already moved into this Titus 2 season of life! Although I will admit that having a Titus 2 ministry is a privilege and a joy.

  8. My favorite Titus 2 lady ministered to me mainly through hospitality. She had me over a lot in my college years. I don’t think she consciously taught me, but I learned so much from her example – about being a Christian woman, wife, and mother. I’ve always been so grateful God put her in my life.

    1. That is amazing. I feel like some of the best Titus 2 women don’t even know they are mentoring! They are just sharing their experiences and giving out of the overflow of their heart!!

  9. I love this! Chayil is an important word to me as it was a focus of my Quest through Fellowship of the Sword. We are might women of God and we often forget this. Thank you, my friend!

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