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The Power of Words – How to Tame Your Tongue

Oh the power of words! We are living in a culture that seems to be hyper-focused on words and cancelling people for what often amounts to making a wrong choice of words. The Biblical warning to tame your tongue seems so appropriate these days. Most times, no malice was intended at all yet their words carried weight and had consequences, whether you agree with them or not.

Let’s look at what the Bible says about the power of words and how to guard your mouth God’s way and “crumple your speech” like paper. So..how are the words you speak?

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The Power of Words – Tame Your Tongue

I don’t just mean foul language, because I am the first to admit that I have been known in the past to spew a few words I shouldn’t if I get hurt or frightened badly enough.

It’s a knee-jerk reaction and I am not going to pretend I am perfect!

It is something I have to watch out for because one stub of the toe and I can almost guarantee a word might try to slip through!

But in this instance, I am talking about things that are not so “obviously” wrong at first glance. I am talking about things that may not even occur to us when we speak.

What is the power of words? In Proverbs 16:24 it says,

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Pleasant words are honeycomb—sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.


The Hebrew word for ‘health’ here is marpe’ which means “healing, health, sound of mind”.

Imagine that! God’s Word says that if we speak pleasant words, it is not only sweet like a honeycomb but it offers healing and makes one sound of mind!

I don’t think this implies this is just for the hearer! I think it gives a sound mind to the speaker as well.

Why? Because we avoid saying something we wish we could take back, but can’t.

We avoid the stress, the pain, the drama and everything else like it when we avoid saying something we can’t take back.

Your words have the power to bless or to hurt and that is why it is so important to tame your tongue.

James 1:19-26 says:

“Therefore, my dear brothers, let every person be quick to listen but slow to speak, slow to get angry; for a person’s anger does not accomplish God’s righteousness!

So rid yourselves of all vulgarity and obvious evil, and receive meekly the Word implanted in you that can save your lives. Don’t deceive yourselves by only hearing what the Word says, but do it! 

For whoever hears the Word but doesn’t do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror, who looks at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. 

But if a person looks closely into the perfect Torah, which gives freedom, and continues, becoming not a forgetful hearer but a doer of the work it requires, then he will be blessed in what he does.

Anyone who thinks he is religiously observant but does not control his tongue is deceiving himself, and his observance counts for nothing.”


Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry…we could all use more of that these days I believe.

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Tame Your Tongue (and That Poisoned Pen)

Have you ever written a letter (yes, a paper one) to someone you are upset with or who hurt you in some way?  

Maybe you have written some long, angry letter that was 5 pages long telling them ALL about themselves and then read it over and ended up crumpling it and tossing it out?

A more modern version would be typing up an email and then, before you hit ‘send’, you read it over and delete it.  

Maybe its an angry text that you type out and then delete it because you realized it sounded pretty harsh.

I myself have written posts on Facebook when I have been upset about a general issue like politics and then I read it after a bit and deleted it because I thought it may have sounded too harsh or I came off as complaining.  

It’s crumpled paper of the more electronic kind but it’s the same concept.

When you are writing you have the luxury of reading it over again and starting over if you don’t like how it sounds. We don’t have that luxury when speaking to someone.

We can’t just hit a delete button and take it back. Once it is said, it is said.  

The Power of Words – Words CAN Hurt Me…and You

We have all heard the childhood saying, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me!”

Well, while I said that a lot as a kid, I disagree with that as an adult. The power of words is that they CAN have a lasting impact on people and can do a lot of harm.

Ever wonder how powerful words are? Just look at the effects of bullying in our society today! Words DO harm!

I know this damage firsthand.

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I have had things said to me in the past that caused a lot of pain and heartache! They affected me for many, many years later.

So I feel like God is telling me to make it a practice now to crumple my speech like that paper we talked about.

I should carefully “re-read” what I am about to say in my mind and then “crumple” up anything that is too harsh or too reactive and replace it with something more positive and uplifting.  

No one will ever mind if we ask for a moment to consider what we will say next. What they WILL mind is having something said to them that will do the opposite of healing, or giving soundness of mind.

They WILL mind hurt feelings or broken relationship.

The power of words is that they can cause us to wound others significantly.

You tame your tongue when you choose to speak words that uplift and encourage and “heal” instead.  

Marpe’ also means “profit”.

Miriam Webster defines profit as “the advantage or benefit that is gained from doing something”.  

So we gain an advantage by speaking words of kindness and sweetness.  It goes along the lines of ‘you catch more flies with honey than vinegar’!  

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Do You Guard Your Mouth When Speaking to Yourself?

This is not just about others. It is also about what we speak to ourselves.  

The power of words is that what we continually speak over ourselves comes to pass because we believe it to be true so we act as though it were.

 You can easily get into agreement with what the enemy wants you to think about yourself rather than getting into agreement with what God’s Word says about you!  

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You act with a lack of confidence in yourself and that will flow over into whatever you do! It is a self-fulfilling prophecy!  So choose words that uplift you!

Choose to see yourself the way God sees you and speak what the Bible says about you, by the power of His Word not ours!  

So I challenge you this week to begin crumpling your speech a bit and find ways you can guard your mouth and, let’s be like the Proverbs 31 woman:

“She opens her mouth with wisdom—a lesson of kindness is on her tongue.”

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Bible Verses About the Power of Words

The Power of Words – Bible Verses About Taming Your Tongue

Colossians 4:6 CJB

"...let your conversation always be gracious and interesting, so that you will know how to respond to any particular individual."

Ephesians 4:29 CJB

"Let no harmful language come from your mouth, only good words that are helpful in meeting the need, words that will benefit those who hear them."

Matthew 15:11 TLV

"It’s not what goes into the mouth that makes the man unholy; but what comes out of the mouth, this makes the man unholy.”

Proverbs 17:27-28 CJB

"A knowledgeable person controls his tongue; a discerning person controls his temper. Even a fool, if he stays silent, is thought wise; he who keeps his mouth shut can pass for smart."

Proverbs 21:23 TLV

"Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul out of troubles."

1 Peter 3:10 TLV

"For, “The one who loves life, wanting to see good days, must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit."

Psalm 34:14 (34:13 in some translations) TLV

"Keep your tongue from evil, and your lips from speaking treachery."

Proverbs 12:13-14 CJB

"The wicked is trapped by his own sinful speech, but the righteous finds a way out of trouble. One can be filled with good as the result of one’s words, and one gets the reward one’s deeds deserve."

Titus 3:1-2 TLV

"Remind the people to be submitted to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good deed, to slander no one, without fighting, gentle, showing every courtesy to all people."

James 3:1-12 CJB

"Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, since you know that we will be judged more severely. For we all stumble in many ways; if someone does not stumble in what he says, he is a mature man who can bridle his whole body. 

If we put a bit into a horse’s mouth to make it obey us, we control its whole body as well. 

And think of a ship — although it is huge and is driven by strong winds, yet the pilot can steer it wherever he wants with just a small rudder. 

So too the tongue is a tiny part of the body, yet it boasts great things. See how a little fire sets a whole forest ablaze! Yes, the tongue is a fire, a world of wickedness.

The tongue is so placed in our body that it defiles every part of it, setting ablaze the whole of our life; and it is set on fire by Gei-Hinnom itself. 

For people have tamed and continue to tame all kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and sea creatures; but the tongue no one can tame — it is an unstable and evil thing, full of death-dealing poison! 

With it we bless Adonai, the Father; and with it we curse people, who were made in the image of God.Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing! Brothers, it isn’t right for things to be this way. 

A spring doesn’t send both fresh and bitter water from the same opening, does it? Can a fig tree yield olives, my brothers? or a grapevine, figs? Neither does salt water produce fresh."

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CJB – Taken from the Complete Jewish Bible by David H. Stern. Copyright © 1998. All rights reserved. Used by permission of Messianic Jewish Publishers, 6120 Day Long Lane, Clarksville, MD 21029. www.messianicjewish.net.

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  1. What a great idea: “Begin crumpling your speech a bit”. I love being able to do that with paper; now I can visualize it with my thoughts too! 🙂

  2. Love the idea of crumpling our not so good words. There have been many times I wish I could retract my words from the ears of the person I was talking to. One reason I like writing is we can craft and delete and edit our words. Working hard on making my words be like honey to those around me.

  3. Yes, we have to speak life and know our identity in Christ. Sometimes we allow the lies of the enemy to blur our vision of whose we are, but thank God for his Word that reminds us each day that we are his children. I really appreciate your insight on crumpling out those not so nice words.

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