Being on what seems like a forever diet, I have been paying a lot of attention lately to what goes INTO my mouth. I have been counting calories and being extremely stingy with what I eat! It has almost become an obsession and many times I challenge myself by eating things that net me the fewest calories just so I don’t feel like I am depriving myself.
But today was different…..
Today I started thinking about what comes OUT of my mouth. And I don’t just mean bad language, because I am the first to admit that I have been known to spew a few words I shouldn’t if I get hurt or something scares me badly enough. I am not going to pretend I am perfect! But in this instance I am talking about things that are not so obviously wrong. I am talking about things that may not even occur to us when we speak them.Today I started thinking about what comes OUT of my mouth. Click To Tweet
In Proverbs 16:24 it says,
“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” (NKJV)
The Hebrew word for ‘health’ here is marpe’ which means 1. Healing, cure 2. Health, profit, sound (of mind)
Imagine that….God’s Word says that if we speak pleasant words, it is not only sweet like a honeycomb but it offers healing and makes one sound of mind! I don’t think old Solomon means just for the hearer! I think it gives a sound mind to the speaker as well. Why? Because we avoid saying something we wish we could take back, but can’t.
Have you ever written a letter to someone you are upset with or who hurt you in some way? You may have written a letter like that and then read it over and ended up crumpling it and tossing it out. A more modern version would be typing up an email and then before you hit ‘send’ you read it over and delete it. I have also made posts on Facebook when I have been upset about a general issue (never at a person because I do not believe Facebook is the place for that sort of thing) and then I read it after a bit and deleted it because I thought it may have sounded too harsh or I came off as complaining. It’s crumpled paper of a more electronic source but the same concept.
I thought about my spoken words. When you are writing you have the luxury of reading it over again and starting over if you don’t like how it sounds. We don’t have that luxury when speaking to someone. We can’t just hit a delete button and take it back. Once it is said, it is said. So I feel like God is telling me to make it a practice now to crumple my speech.I feel like God is telling me to make it a practice now to crumple my speech. Click To Tweet
I should carefully re-read what I am about to say in my mind and then “crumple” up anything that is too harsh or too reactive and replace it with more pleasant speech. No one will ever mind if we ask for a moment to consider what we will say next. What they WILL mind is having something said to them that will do the opposite of healing, or giving soundness of mind. They WILL mind hurt feelings or broken relationship. We have the power to wound others significantly with the words we speak. Or we can speak words that uplift and encourage and “heal” instead.We have the power to wound others significantly with the words we speak. Or we can speak words that… Click To Tweet
Marpe’ also means “profit”. We will “profit” or receive a reward. Miriam Webster defines profit as “the advantage or benefit that is gained from doing something”. So we gain an advantage by speaking words of kindness and sweetness. It goes along the lines of: ‘you catch more flies with honey than vinegar’!
But this is not just about others. It is also about what we speak to ourselves. Our words have a lot of power! What we continually speak over ourselves comes to pass because we believe it to be true so we act as though it were. If you believe you can’t be successful at something, odds are you won’t be. Why? It’s because when you believe you won’t be successful you begin to act that way! You act with a lack of confidence in yourself and that will flow over into whatever you do! It is a self-fulfilling prophecy! So choose words that uplift you! Choose to see yourself the way God sees you and speak over yourself what the Bible says about you!! One great book I recommend is Joyce Meyer’s Me and My Big Mouth. It is a great way to start tempering your speech and taking charge of your mouth! I have linked it below.Choose to see yourself the way God sees you and speak over yourself what the Bible says about you!! Click To Tweet
So I challenge you this week to begin crumpling your speech a bit and “speak only what is wise and kind” (Proverbs 31:26) to others AND yourself!
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